How do I leave a Clubhouse room in a healthy way?

How do I leave a room in a healthy way?

Prepared by Ryan Warren @ryanwarren

Imagine talking with someone face to face. They are mid-sentence sharing something important and meaningful to them, and you get up and walk out not saying anything.

You left the room quietly.

This is one of a number of Clubhouse appropriate actions that would be undeniably impactful in an in-person exchange.

So what do we do? What do we do when someone is mid-topic and we need to jet? Clubhouse has an answer for us, surely, and boy oh boy do they.

Leave Quietly. 👋

That button is available for you to click with a touch of the finger and “Voila!” you’re gone.

But what if you’re wanting to leave a conversation with a little more intention, thankfulness, gratitude, and extend to them a deeper sense of who you are? What are the options?

I ask because the idea of walking out of a room without saying anything in real life gives me a feeling that only a double scoop of ice cream in a waffle cone could help alleviate. 😀

(Disclaimer: I am not at all saying there is something “wrong” by using the Leave Quietly feature. We have calls to answer, dogs to walk, and pizza to eat - leave when you need to.)

Two Options Instead of “Leave Quietly 👋”

1. Send a direct message via Instagram to the person talking when you leave.

This one takes an additional 30 seconds. Craft your own message or you’re welcome to try a version of what I’ve done in the past. 

“I am leaving the room you were just speaking in. (Insert reason here if you’d like.) I did hit follow (if you actually did) so that I can reconnect with you in a future discussion (if you honestly are wanting to).”

The goal here is to say what’s true and honest and let the person know you were interested in what they were saying and will circle back. To reiterate, please don’t type something if you don’t mean it. Keeping up appearances could very well land you with countless invitations from that person into every time they’re speaking AND if you were honest upfront, now you’ve dug a pretty sizable hole to climb out of when you reach the point of finally being honest.

2. When it’s your turn to speak and you know you’re about to make your exit, bookend for everyone in the room that you’re about to leave.

This one works really well. It’s also very popular.

“Hey everyone, I am going to be leaving the room here in a few. (Deliver what you have to share). I’ve really enjoyed being here (if you have) and I look forward to rejoining with you again sometime soon (if you do). Have a great day everyone!” (Some version of that.)

What just happened? You prepared yourself and every one the room that you’re leaving. You added to the conversation. Then you opened your own opportunity to leave quietly but prepared others for doing so. Badabing badaboom.

Why Leaving “Quietly” Matters.

I think it’s possible that Clubhouse’s feature of Leaving “Quietly” is more appropriate to be named “Leave Silently.” We can leave quietly and still extend to other people a verbal exchange that isn’t a loud and demonstrative exit.

Is it possible that Clubhouse is allowing us a new frontier in human-to-human communication? Discovering ways we can leave face-to-face exchanges in a previously undiscovered way? *Cue Star Trek theme music

Maybe. Maybe not. But one thing is for sure. Clubhouse is providing an environment for you to make the most of your experience. And, if leaving without saying by doesn’t add to your experience, then you owe it to yourself to find the way that works for you.

So I’m curious, how do you leave conversations? Do you hang up the phone without saying bye? How is that working for you? Or maybe, leaving quietly has its place and time. I’d like to hear how you leave Clubhouse rooms. Jet me an email at [email protected] and when you send the email, you’re welcome to sign your name or… leave quietly. It’s up to you. You deserve to find the Win!